The Art of Marriage

"People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges" - Joseph F. Newton
In the throes of  heated, confrontational, rude and sometimes downright hateful political campaigns we see candidates attempting to score political points, not by proposing sensible legislation for the good of society, but rather by bashing whomever they deem to be their opposition. Relationships, trust and simple courtesy are annihilated in an effort to become elected, with rhetoric intended to destroy rather than to construct. Then, when the election is over, the electorate is supposed to swallow the fantastic myth that these same candidates will cooperate somehow, to find solutions to the myriad ills of society. Good luck!
In government and elections, as in any relationship, we can not simply turn off respect, courtesy and cooperation to find that they will magically reappear when we need them.
Prior to my father's death he offered his children a choice of several simple mementos of him and my mother. One which I chose, and which now sits on my bedroom dresser is a little framed essay entitled, "The Art of Marriage". I know not who wrote it, but many parts of it can apply to any relationship. I share it now for your consideration.
The Art of Marriage
A good marriage must be created. In the art of marriage the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say, "I love you." at least once each day. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is standing together facing the world.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is speaking kind words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is in never going to sleep angry. It is giving each other an atmosphere  in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is not only marrying the right partner. It is being the right partner.
It would not be sensible to ask political candidates to declare their love for one another in spite of the fact that they protest that they are devout Christians. And doubtful they will hold hands! They will likely go on serving as a bad example while we try to teach our school children not to be bullies.
Good relationships have to start somewhere. How about at home? When did I last tell someone that I love them and that they are important to me?

Gerald M. Sliva
Still Barking

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